I've been working on being:
free of negative self-talk
free of stuff I don't need or use
free of excess weight
free of the constraints I put on myself
After two years of free-thinking, I have managed to get rid of a LOT of stuff that I don't need or use. I've even managed to change my thinking about stuff quite a bit -- I don't want as much as I used to, I don't want to have to take care of and organize that much stuff. Throwing things out and giving things away has had a very freeing effect.
As far as negative self-talk and constraints I put on myself.... I think I have made some progress. I could certainly do more in that department.
As for excess weight... sigh. I'm no better off there than I was when I started.
In truth, I could see myself sticking with that word forever... or at least a good long time, but I felt like maybe I was losing focus. The cute green polka-dot Free sign on my fridge was starting to be just another part of my landscape, rather than a motivational dictum.
So I started trying on different words. At first, I thought about choosing something that comes a little more easily to me... say, calm. But even though I do work at being calm, I knew that wouldn't really be a stretch. Then, I tried some other words, but they all ended up just being synonymous with free.
Finally, I found it:
|1.||a movement toward a goal or to a further or higher stage|
|2.||advancement in general.|
|3.||growth or development; continuous improvement|
the development of an individual or society in a direction considered more beneficial than and superior to the previous level.
|5.||forward or onward movement|
|6.||to go forward or onward in space or time|
|7.||to grow or develop|
I think it will be good for me to focus on making progress. I still have a lot of areas I'd like to improve in, but I want to be able to applaud myself for every little movement I make in the right direction. I want to be pleased with what I accomplish, rather than upset with all that I have not yet accomplished. I want to learn to accept myself where I am, right now, be gentle with my efforts to improve, and appreciative of any and all growth.
For a perfectionist like me, I think it will prove to be a real challenge.