tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post702946730467883181..comments2023-10-14T20:56:13.686-06:00Comments on { chez moi }: Sunday thoughtsmichellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14617050750444837628noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-68572680709170257732011-01-21T17:22:59.656-07:002011-01-21T17:22:59.656-07:00I like Mom's suggestion. Grandma embraced moth...I like Mom's suggestion. Grandma embraced motherhood, marriage, womanhood, the gospel, all while maintaining such a strong sense of identity.Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16096609209172158941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-46642923717291850172011-01-20T14:19:29.615-07:002011-01-20T14:19:29.615-07:00Have them read Grandma's history.Have them read Grandma's history.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06987963844682886629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-9971069268006516012011-01-20T10:36:43.441-07:002011-01-20T10:36:43.441-07:00This just breaks my heart! I love those young wome...This just breaks my heart! I love those young women, and the best thing that ever happened to me was becoming a mom. I wish they knew how wonderful and important motherhood is. I will pray for them as well.Jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00339127791851857228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-63552174644896258332011-01-19T09:55:25.686-07:002011-01-19T09:55:25.686-07:00It wasn't until I worked as a nanny for my cou...It wasn't until I worked as a nanny for my cousin that I finally could say I was excited about the possibility of having a family of my own. I was 20.TX Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05903513836524372099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-23863600452494868772011-01-19T09:25:50.904-07:002011-01-19T09:25:50.904-07:00That picture is so gorgeous. I have so much to sa...That picture is so gorgeous. I have so much to say about this post, but this comment box is feeling a little...restrictive. Maybe I will email you sometime.Mirandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04888264290380513746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-90270758005069410122011-01-18T12:40:51.113-07:002011-01-18T12:40:51.113-07:00I know some one in a similar situation at this tim...I know some one in a similar situation at this time. <br />One thing I try to keep in mind is that for me, a gospel testimony didn't come until after I was in college and even then I was slow to realize it. I knew many of the basic things but didn't know much beyond. For some of these youth it may just take time and some independence. For others, maybe a lack of desire or motivation.<br />I've found that aside from praying for such individuals, being prepared and available to discuss and answers their gospel-related questions as they ask them have helped.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805858490809514553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-39148815887169992152011-01-18T12:23:37.284-07:002011-01-18T12:23:37.284-07:00Keep your perspective. That's all the advice ...Keep your perspective. That's all the advice I have. Love them and keep your perspective as they're formulating their own.Neighbor Jane Paynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11524394383695366513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-83320482784909027872011-01-17T21:17:47.143-07:002011-01-17T21:17:47.143-07:00One thing that one woman can do about this is to b...One thing that one woman can do about this is to be a good example. When you are around the young women and young men in your ward make sure that you are open about your feelings about being a mother. <br /><br />I remember when I was a teenager back in the 70's when women's lib was in full swing, and it was very unpopular to admit that you were interested in motherhood or being a wife or anything home related. Really, until Martha Stewart came along home arts were something that made you boring. As a teenager I was very confused by all the media messages and attitudes I was exposed to, and I was in full denial of any leaning toward any domestic anything. <br /><br />One day my grandmother and I were talking and she told me how much she loved being a mother and how important the job was, and how she had tried to do her best at it. Bang. My attitude changed in an instant. Her comments reached down to my soul, and they gave me permission to explore the feelings I was trying to hide.<br /><br />Kids these days, (and always) need good role models to help them figure out life. Each one of us can be those models if we want to. One association, even one conversation can have great impact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-20922119117082000752011-01-17T14:56:10.490-07:002011-01-17T14:56:10.490-07:00We had almost the same discussion in our ward coun...We had almost the same discussion in our ward council yesterday. Ours centered on the youth of the ward knowin(intellectually)but not KNOWING in their hearts and through pure testimony about the truths of the gospel and about their Savior. So when the darts(or strangers criticisms or questions or friends sarcasm) came, they find themselves unsure. Do I really Know? They think of Christ as their brother and friend, but do they think of Him and love Him as their Savior and Redeemer, who has taken upon Him all the sins and cares of their lives?<br /><br />I'm sad about the motherhood comments. The world is making a strong case for going your own way, doing your own thing and finding yourselves. Unfortunately, in our ward we have a few mothers at this time who have chosen to do this by walking away from the church to find themselves. It has been extremely confusing to the children. Our RS theme this year is1 Nephi 25:26. Our children need to have a sure knowledge of whom they can turn to.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13616030675515165067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-20799556990473768402011-01-17T14:44:06.978-07:002011-01-17T14:44:06.978-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13616030675515165067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-83635196751968360472011-01-17T11:42:45.404-07:002011-01-17T11:42:45.404-07:00Wow. I'm not sure what to say because I have h...Wow. I'm not sure what to say because I have had many days this month of feeling like cleaning bathrooms, doing laundry, running car pool and breaking up fights is not the life that I wanted, but I have also had some of the most wonderful moments with my children and praying for my children...<br /><br />I must say- I'm not actually surprised by the lack of knowledge. As grateful as I am for teachers who come each week, my children have not learned the gospel correctly or with any meaning from many of their teachers and it has increased my desire to teach my children at home because attending church is just no guarantee.jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06038038134805286039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-25853980344821610392011-01-17T10:44:14.340-07:002011-01-17T10:44:14.340-07:00This post provides much fodder for thought. Yester...This post provides much fodder for thought. Yesterday one of my friends, the Beehive advisor in our ward, asked me to come in and talk to her girls for a few minutes about my relationship with the Savior. While not directly related to families and child-rearing, I believe that helping them understand that essential foundation of testimony and happiness. In thinking of what to say to those 12- and 13-year-olds about my relationship with Jesus Christ, I was touched with how much my relationship with Him has influenced absolutely everything about me. Perhaps with the youth in your ward, that's where you should start your focus. A relationship with the Savior is where testimony begins and takes root, and everything else will follow, even an new and increased desire to have a family.Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16096609209172158941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-50341230304122787792011-01-17T10:05:09.480-07:002011-01-17T10:05:09.480-07:00I worry about this and have seen the same trend he...I worry about this and have seen the same trend here also. I remember in high school thinking I couldn't wait to get married and be a mom. Maybe I wasn't normal? I just figured all girls were like this but I am learning it's not. I hope you can find ways to better influence the girls.Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03051373926462297390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-40557548908186773372011-01-17T09:14:55.664-07:002011-01-17T09:14:55.664-07:00Of course one of my first thoughts and worries is ...Of course one of my first thoughts and worries is that this will be my children some day... I think the idea of a guest panel is a great one. I know as an adolescent I was not too receptive to teachings from my own parents, but looked up to several leaders who did make a lasting impression on me. I think (whoever you are in the church) that it is important to see adult members of the church that you can identify with and relate to. I think the youth need to see that living the gospel does not usurp your identity, and that they can lead vibrant fulfilling lives without sacrificing themselves to it. And I too, as a youth declared I was never having children. I often worry that I leave the impression with my children that motherhood is a bum job. Bella recently told me that she didn't want to be a mom because they had too many chores...jthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11565824986946758808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-84514835051567965782011-01-17T07:13:48.095-07:002011-01-17T07:13:48.095-07:00It's fun to see that picture again!
This news...It's fun to see that picture again!<br /><br />This news is rather sad, but may be just what the leaders need to remind themselves to be more thorough in explaining things when they teach. We have years and years of learning and experience to help us know why the gospel is true and that our lives are happier because of it, but the youth don't have that yet. They probably feel overloaded with all these to-dos and are questioning why they're necessary. It's disturbing that even coming from strong families they don't know why and are missing key elements, but their obedience thus far shows faith so surely the situation can be remedied!Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09032420498045893374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-57505093760330205962011-01-16T20:03:01.353-07:002011-01-16T20:03:01.353-07:00First of all, sometimes I think that these kids kn...First of all, sometimes I think that these kids know the gospel, the stories, the songs and answers but when they are in front of their peers or others, they blank out or just do not want to speak up the truth. <br />Secondly, yes these youth should have family as a goal with marriage and such. But, they are youth; thinking about having children at this point is something foreign to them something that is not on the radar. Maybe just getting them excited for the day when they will get married with a spouse then eventually children will keep them focused on the important goals. Helping them keep the vision of family and eternity is important. Also, how many have had their Patriarchal Blessing? Maybe helping them see the plan the Lord has for them keeps their eyes on the Lord's will, not the world's. <br />_Diedre Gray (Elisa's friend)Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13068580539898015091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21397651.post-88068566776194365582011-01-16T19:21:26.991-07:002011-01-16T19:21:26.991-07:00Well, how is motherhood being presented to these g...Well, how is motherhood being presented to these girls? Not overtly, but through the women around them? That's all I can think of. They are seeing something about motherhood that isn't appealing to them. Do they feel like they'd have to give up chances of education and betterment? Do they feel that motherhood is cloistering? <br /><br />You are a mother, Michelle, AND you are highly educated, well-traveled, smart, and you have a world view. Motherhood hasn't held you back, in fact, it's provided many avenues of betterment for you. <br /><br />I think that in enclaves of LDS people we women have a tendency to turn in and live only amongst ourselves and see the world through our limited views. The young women in the church today are exposed to more opportunities, information, and people than previous generations. They are inspired in their desires to go, see, and do more than ever before. I'm afraid that too often we set motherhood as an opposing role to these goals. That won't fly with many of the young women today, and isn't true. They can be so much in addition to and through being mothers.<br /><br />And this is a random aside, but I remember that while I was a young women our leaders spent a good deal of time casually complaining about their children, and especially their husbands. I absolutely know you aren't doing this, maybe just keep an ear and eye open for what's going on around them?Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08599286202033243810noreply@blogger.com